You Shall Know them by Their Fruits

As you get older trust becomes a bigger part of relationships. Now dont get me wrong it is important in middle school and highschool [ "johnny went behind my back with vanessa!".."but you were cheating on him with Jimmy!"..."whose side are you on! my life is over! i blame my parents wah wah wah!"]. But like i said when you are older trust takes a different meaning. at some point you will wake up and realize that is truly is the foundation of who you are and what you will be about. Now if you are trust worthy and your relationship is great then dont even bother reading this but if you have ever messed up and have hurt your reputation and even worse your relationship keep reading:

The fact of the matter is once you hurt trust the relationship will not be the same. and most people will say that it will never be the same. luckily i have found that this is not true. but it takes ALOT of work. In order to get yourself back into the good graces of your loved one you must be ready to put in that work. You were the one who messed up and if you want to save this then putting in work shouldnt be a problem for you. And you are asking what do i mean work? I mean you are going to have to take the shots, the yelling, the tears, the jealousy and everything that might come with it. But the real work is the fundamental change you have to make. That is wear i got the title [yes you smart ass it is a biblical passage i dont mean that i came up with the title]. The real work is you changing you. You have to make the change in your way of thinking and living. What once was part of just being a guy has to be considered from your significant others eyes. when you have really changed your fruit then it is inevitable she will see it and return to feeling safe. I was once told "a girl wants to feel like you are rher fortress". when you really start to think on what that means you will see how deep that is. once you figure out how to be that fortress [clue...it doesnt mean you can kick ass] all will go back to normal hell it will be even better in fact. now go change your fruit....and let her see your banana. ZING